Hi Mike. .

Well I'm the one with breast cancer .. grade 3 her 2 ... and I'm 7 months post mastectomy... and have untie who's been diagnosed with it 6 weeks ago ... so I've been on both sides ... and what helped me (after the first panic mode) was just positive vibes .. and knowing how much loved ones cared ... at first the word cancer does take a while to sink in ... but I've got an amazing daughter in law who brought us all together and stopped us looking at the "what ifs" and saying we'll do this together ...

And for me, just getting texts along the way saying thinking of you ... and having someone hold my hand along the way ... and l found it harder watching my untie then myself ... but in our family we have a wicked sense of humour, and that gets us through anything ... though l do apriecate a lot of family's find that really hard ...

so all l can say as your not close by, is those little texts or calls that don't have to say a lot but letting her know your thinking of her is good at this stage ... everyone is different ... with lots of ups and downs .. hope this helps a little ... Chrissie x

Hello MikeL.  Sorry about your sister's diagnosis.  How about Skypeing - you could arrange a certain time to do this - how often to be chosen by your sister - so she knows she will be speaking to you and you can see how she is doing.  I imagine it might all be a bit difficult at first but she will realise that you care about her.  Try not to show your distress as that adds to her stress. 

If you can do this you will probably feel a bit better as you will hear and see how she is faring.   Hope this helps.  Best wishes. Annie

Hi Mike,
 

I found this post today and wanted to check in on how you and your sister are doing.

I too am going through the same thing with my sister, who is stage 4.

Hope you're both ok

L