My name is Lisa I’m 47 and my dad is in the hospital he’s about to die but when I went to see him last night I was crying uncontrollably Today my mum said she thinks I should not go again because I get to upset I feel so alone
Hi there lisa ... bless your heart ... im stuck for words ... but my heart goes out to you ... l know everyone grieves / hurts in different ways ... maybe your mum is just protecting your dad right now ... as he is at this moment her first priority... l can understand that ...
But oh hunny don't miss this chance to be with him now ... scream / cry and get it all out, and then find that courage we all have deep inside to put that to one side and hold it in while you see him ... hold his hand , tell him how much you love him and if you can do this, it will help your mum to, to have you all walk his last path together ... you will have a lifetime to cry and get all those feelings out but at least you won't have regrets that you missed these precious last days ...
We don't know just how brave we are, until our backs against a wall ... you can do this ... Chrissie
I am so sorry that you are finding this so difficult. Crying for a loved one is normal, but I find that it is better to cry on your own when they are not around. This way you don’t upset the rest of the family. I agree with all that Chrissie has said and I’m sure that you can do it..
This is the stage when you need to be strong not just for your dad, but also for your mum. They both need your support just now and you can give it if you put your mind to it.
Crying is not a bad thing in general, as it helps to relieve some of your anxieties. Let the tears flow before you visit your dad and, with any luck, they will have dried up sufficiently whilst you are with him. You can always have another cry once you reach home. Do you have any other family or friends who you can discuss things with? This can be a great help.
Thinking of you all and please don’t miss out on your dad’s final days because of this. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. You are not alone. We are always here for you whenever you feel like talking.
