Hi Lyn,

A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

I am so sorry to her about your situation. You do not say what type of cancer your partner has. Different cancers can have different outcomes.

It is not unusual for people to go into denial after a diagnosis like this, but it is so much easier to deal with if one has a more positive attitude. Try to go to his appointments with him. Support him as much as you can. I am glad to hear that he is not in any pain at the moment and hope that this continues. Make as many memories as you can whilst he is well enough to do so.

Keep communication channels between you as open as possible – it makes a huge difference to have someone that he can confide in. Are there any people he’d like to see or places that he’d like to go? You will give him so much support by just being there for him.

Your feeling of anger is just one of the many mixed emotions that we suffer at times like this. Your poor partner is probably scared stiff of what lies ahead, but doesn’t want to admit it. You have a hard road ahead of you, but don.t give up. His emotions will be all over the place at present, but these should gradually settle down.

You are not alone in how you feel. Many others here have had a similar experience. If you go to the blue band at the top of this page and insert some key words into the search box, this will bring up previous discussions on similar topics. I hope that you will find these helpful.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are both getting on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx