My Mom has Endometrial cancer stage IVB

Hi,

I dont know what to say or do, I just need help or guidance with what my mom is going through. Im away from her right now. I live miles away from her and i cant really go to where she is because i was denied a visa. She lives with my dad and im the only one missing. So at the moment i feel helpless.

Mom was diagnosed with stage IVb endometrial cancer last Oct. 2017, has undergone 3 cycles of Chemo eversince, she lost her hair and has lost weight, has had lowered Tumor markers (to which i clung to with all my hope that it would help me indicate her survival), but with all efforts lost because although she has had better results, 

new and aggressive cells emerged from her chemo. 

She is 61 years old, and if basing her survival from statistics, she only has less than 6 months to live. 

During her chemo, though, she was not bedridden. She can even drive herself to her nearby hospital, get food from the fridge, can do simple chores such as cook or clean the floor. But the downside is that she cannot do without pain medication.

She wont go throught the next chemo treatment because the drugs involved will stress her heart and may cause bowel perforation, risks that we all are not willing to take.

 she will go take a natural approach, but my doubts and my grief are as vast as the universe. 

I have asked her doctor, through a message, about her prognosis, she hasnt answered yet, so i would also want to know if other people has had similar experience with this and could give me some insights about her prognosis. 

thanks very much

_madness

 

  • Welcome to our forum, _madness.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your mum's situation, it sounds like this is very trying time for all of you and with you being away from her no wonder you might feel a bit lost at times.

    Hopefully our members who have gone through a similar experience either as a patient or as a carer for a loved one with cancer will pop by soon to offer advice and support but in the meantime feel free to post as much as you need, even if all you want is to rant a little.

    Also, we do have some information on our website about endometrial cancer I wanted to pass on to you and I hope that can be of some use.

    Stay strong, _madness, and please remember we are here whenever you need someone to listen.

    Best wishes to you and your mum,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

     

  • Hi, my mum has just been diagnosed with the same stage IV B, no idea what to expect - she is 72, please do share your experience as I see your post is dated 2018, how did it go ?

     

    thank you 

  • Hi Zeina,

    I'm very sorry to read about your mum. I just wanted to send a reply to say that as the original post you were replying to was from nearly three years ago and the user hasn't posted since, they may not be still active on the forum.

    If this is the case, you may wish to create your own new thread if you would like some support, to hopefully receive replies from others on the forum.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thank you Ben - ok will do

     

    Best wishes,

     

    Zeina

  • Hi Zeina, 

     

    It really has been years since i posted, and i vividly remember how distraught i was. 

    Unfortunately, my mom passed away 9 months after i sought help here. Within those 9 months, she stopped chemo but resumed it bec she still wanted to fight, had multiple problems that needed surgery, in her case, intestinal blockage problems, metastases and the like, but then we ultimately decided that we accept fate and go for hospice for her comfort. She died peacefully in her sleep on November 20, 2018 at dawn, tomorrow being her 2nd death anniversary.

     

    I dont mean to be the bearer of sad news, everything's already sad as it is. Cancer survival rates are indeed case-to-case basis, but i do pray that your mom will survive this, and pray that things will be comfortable for her esp during this pandemic. Make sure to talk to your doctors and ask them to brief you with the best options your mom has for this battle as it may be a bit different w this covid thing. But the best thing to do is to be with her 24/7 and to give her as much love as you can. 

     

    Stay safe and well. Best wishes to you.

     

    Yours,

    Madness.

     

     

  • Thank you for your message, I am sorry to hear that, it is devastating.

     

    Best regards

     

    Zeina