I remember your posts very well, Sindy. We were all hoping for the best, even though the situation sounded grim. But that is terrible news. And with an 8 year old son as well. Does your friend have other people she can count on as well? You are a wonderful friend, and are clearly doing so much, but there is only so much each individual can do. You must look after yourself as well. xx Harry

Hello Sinday; so sorry to hear this news.  You are being a great friend and comfort but as Harry states and perhaps you need some support too. As well as posting here (which we hope you will continue) you might find it hepful to ring MacMillan Cancer Support (Freefone 0808 808 0000).  They help anyone affected by cancer, giving practical and emotional support.  There is no way that this going to be anything but a hard time for you and you shouldn't wear yourself out.  Bless you for being there for your friend.

Hi Cindy ... So so sorry hunny to hear your news ... Cancer sucks ... I've sent you a friend request so you can write directly to me ... I'm on here most evenings so I'll always get back to you ... Hold on ,. You can, and will do this ... You can poor your heart out to me, and when you get things out it gives you the strength to face another day ... Even the strongest of us have MELT DOWN days ... I had my first one a few weeks back and everyone on here rallied round me , and set me back on this cancer rollercoaster we find ourselves on ... So l got my boxing gloves on and got back in the ring to fight back ...

Well I've got a spare pair of gloves waiting just for you ... We can do this together ... Big big hug chrisie

Thank you Harry.

yes I have support. My partner is amazing! And I am in contact with Marie Curie. These ppl are brilliant. The diagnosis changed since I posted this one...

it has now spread to the brain and the spine. They are giving her a lower dose of chemo to give her more quality of life rather than quantity. But this comes at a price! Max expectancy is now 10 months! But looking at her I am so afraid she wont even make the chemo.

i have been there 15 years ago... Supported my best friend... She died aged 33, left two children, 3 and 5. I am in a Dejavu... Yesterday I broke down. I couldnt stop crying, being afraid, upset and angry. 

The chemo has at least given her the chance to eat her first meal in 4 months, as the tumor was pressing on her feeding tube. She is breathing a little better too. 

Thank you for your kind words. Xx

Thank you Annieliz. 

As I said I have support from Marie Curie and my partner. All my friends rallied around me to support me too. My friend with cancer has her family and one friend as well as me. But her mum is not coping with her diagnosis at all.she had a stroke 6 months ago, still working hard to get back to herself. So I am there for her too. Its what you do as a friend. I only make promises that I can keep. And thats why I can say I never break a promise. And my promise to my friend was and is 'You are not alone! I will be with you every step of the way!' She can call me anytime, day or night and I will listen or come to her and give her a hug or what ever she needs. This girl is not just a friend to me. She is like a sister to me and like a second mum to my two boys. I have a boy with autism and one with ADHD and she is the only friend who never questions anything. She was there when I was very ill. My boys are her boys and her boy is mine. Thats how its always been. And I am certainly there for her now. Thank you for your lovely words. It does help to speak out xx

Hi Chriss.

i am so glad you found this post. Thank you.

i hope you are ok.

I havent been doing so great lately. Between research and helping her I had yesterday quite a bad day! Its been taking its toll on me. I poured my heart out. But it was good as today I am back on track. 

Thank you for friends requesting me. I dont know this site too well so I will have to have a snoop where to find you. But with my internet skills I am sure it wont be too long. 

You are very kind to me so thank you and I am so glad you are here (not glad for the reason you are here). But your words helped me so much.

virtual hug xx

Hi Sindy, 

I saw in your last message that you have received a friend request and aren't too sure how to accept it so I've included some information we have on the forum about how to do it just here.

I hope this helps and if you need any further help using the forum, don't hesitate to ask :)

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator