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Caring for my husband

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Hello.

This is my first time on a chat page, but I am funding it so hard to cope emotionally with the diagnosis of prostate cancer for my husband. He has an amazing outlook but it has spray to bones lungs and lymph glands. I feel that because he' not going to be a happy ever after story he is being left in the dark.  He is going through horrendous pain most of the time, and recently suffered a broken rib after a fall. Could this have excelerated the spread. We have an appointment in march for the specialist, but can we request a new scan.I feel so useless and not good enough as I can't help him through or with any of it. I am funding our relationship has gone from extremely loving and caring to just being practical. It'  breaking my heart as we still love each other immensely. 

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    Hi my partner has cancer that's spread to her bones, it's an horrible disease, watching someone u love in pain, my partner was diagnosed 3 years ago and it's been stable after having chemo and now on hormone therapy which is keeping it at bay,  I understand how you feel deb x

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    Hi

    I ve had incurable PC for 19 months now, my wife was absolutely devastated when she heard the news, me being so easy going was more worried about my wife than my condition. 

    We have always been together and have a saying me and you just us two, my wife worrys about everything I do, if I get a cough or sneeze she starts to fret. I keep telling her that daily things happen and I do take all the precautions possible.

    I worry more about my wife and I f she catches a cold, I kinda look after her I do the cooking ironing tidying cleaning etc, I am retired and my wife still has to work for some time.

    we love each other dearly chat and text all the time, we keep yourselves to yourselves so we rely on each other for company, 

    In the on coming months your partner will be going through a lot of tests and then medication this is when you can give all the support you can helping in any way you can, but give him some space, some times it will get to him and a bit of me time does not go amiss.

    There are good people who will look after him so hopefully he will be with you for a fair amount of time yet.

    take care good wishes to both of you.

    joe

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