I just found out my dad has stage four lung cancer. He's been very secretive and won't tell me much. I've had to ask everyone else and don't really know what to do or say and don't understand what everything means.
Hi there, welcome to our little chat room ... as l don't know your dad, l can only guess he maybe coming to terms with it himself, ... l know l retreated to my bed for two days not wanting to talk to any one, and the next day felt like I'd sorted it out in my head, and could let loved ones in...
Or he may want to protect you... it could be so many things... we all act differently when we get this diagnosis... every one is different ... maybe you could tell him, you'll be there when he feels like talking ..
Give him space, and hopefully he'll tell you more ... but in the mean time, I'm just sending you a big virtual hug ... Chrissie x
Hello. Sorry to hear about your father. Chrissie is almost certainly right (she usually is!) that you need to give your dad the time and space he needs for himself. There is a lot of useful information on this website about lung cancer and you could perhaps take a look at this to give you an idea of what to expect and where you can go for the help that the family may need in the future. Don't let it worry you too much; not everyone is the same but it gives you the possibilities. Please also come back here whenever you feel confused or worried, Lots of people here with lots of experience who will be only too happy to chat with you. Best wishes.
