Hi there ... it is a funny old thing this cancer ... takes away logic and makes us confused, worried, so I've got a feeling, he either wants some time for his self, to help him feel in control.. or he loves you so much, he needs to see you getting a break ... so hold on in there, try and get him to tell you all that's worrying him... he may just open up, and let you in... so at least you'll have an idea what it is ...
This is a rollercoaster ride, ups and downs and we have to hold on tight to get through it... but wer on this rollercoaster with you ... if he does need a little space, don't worry he just needs to work his feelings out .. I've done that, had a good scream, felt better after, then I could let love ones in ... thinking of you ... keep strong ... Chrissie xx
Thanks Christie
You are right it is a rollercoaster I am never sure how he is going to be when I get home my daughter pops in to see him during the day when she is on night duty so I am fortunate .unfortunatly he is worried about the mortgage but will not sit down and look at our finances with me.but as you say he needs to work things out.
Thank u your post helped lf
Hi there .. just a thought, but if he's worried about mortgage etc, McMillan have financial advice they could help him with ... maybe he would talk to them .. Bless him, he is trying to make sure you'll be o.k it's just a shame he won't open up.. maybe in time, if you look calm (even if your not calm inside) he will trust that you can help with these things ... but you must look after your heart, and when he gets grumpy / angry it's not you, its the cancer ...
You hold on tight to your daughter, and help each other through ... xx
Hi there hunny ... Just seen your post and wanted to send you a big hug ... If you do look back on here, I'm here if you want to chat ... You can private message me if you want ... He's not in pain now, no chemo , no tablets, he's free ... and although that's small comfort , it's something to hold on to...
My thoughts are with you and your daughter ... Hold on to each other, you may not see him but he now lives in your hearts .... Xx
