Hi shazza... it's really hard giving advice as everyone is different ... all I can say is what I needed ... and after the cancer verdict is given, I needed a couple of days on my own to let out all those feelings I was having, but come out of that ready for whatever it threw at me ....then it was telling people I loved, and putting their mind at rest and lots of cuddles and hugs ... and a big thing was admitting it was scary ..

But every one rallied round, gave me the space to make my own decisions... and then carry on as normal as possible... ask her what she wants you to do, if she needs you all the time, or does she need some time on her own... please be carefull you don't over protect her, just both tell each other how you feel, and know any thoughts are o.k and tell her you'll be there for as much as she needs you ... let her lead the way... your stronger then you realise ... and you can always phone the helpline on here or mcmillan... and you can have a chat to a nurse about anything ... they help anyone involved ... big hug chrisie xx