Hi there Diana... sorry about t's diagnosis ... he's probably feeling pretty confused at the moment and needs time to ajust to his situation ... so maybe it's very hard for him to feel jolly  at the moment ... but if you can give him time, and hold his hand and just tell him your there to walk this journey with him .. and if he wants to talk, you'll be there when he's ready ... there's so many emotions that we go through and sometimes we shut people out that we love , because looking at how they hurt, makes us feel even sadder ... but knowing you have someone who is JUST THERE and if you can do that in a gentle way by letting t lead the way, he just may feel like he can open up ... it won't be easy ... seeing someone you care deeply for take this journey is one of the hardest things we do in this life ... so my thoughts are with you ...hold on in there ... together ... big hug .. chrisie xx 

I know the feeling of lost. There is not really anything we can do. The patient has to come to terms with death in his own way. I try to keep the spirits up by trying to do nice things that was always nice  fir my dad to do. Luckily we live close to a wild park which he used to visit alot. Now we can go in for a day or until he feels tired. We visit family , I have arranged alot of groups such as Care Buddies to visit them on a weekly basis. I try to get as many different visitors to them. It helps my mother to focus on other things as well. We do not make decisikns for my dad. He must still feel he is needed and therefore he is still driving my mother to town etc. He still got to make money desicions. But yes it is hard to cope with the fact that he is getting wesker by the day. Strongs for you and your family. It is such a relief to be able to talk to people about it.