Hi my name is Julie my sister is a cancer patient and has bin diagnosed with cancer for the second time in a year but this time it's terminal haven't had any cancer support at all just wondered if anyone else has had the same negative response
How long is it since your sister's recent diagnosis? Your GP or hospital usually refers you to MacMillan, the local Hospice and/or the District Nurses. It may be that the referral hasn't been actioned yet, or everyone may be waiting assuming someone else has made the referral but no-one has. Her GP will be able to set the ball rolling, or advise who to contact.
I see that this is your first post here, so a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.
I am so sorry to hear about your sister’s second cancer diagnosis. I am surprized that you have not been offered any support, but sometimes you have to ask for it before you’ll get it. Some people with cancer prefer to go it alone, whilst others need some help to get through it all.
What type of cancer does your sister have, what stage was it initially, what treatment has she had, how old is she and have they stopped all treatment now, or are they still giving her chemo?
If you ask her care team they can usually direct you to get some support. MacMillan are good and are often based in the hospital. The Haven and Maggies are also very helpful,as is your local hospice. If you don’t have any of these near you, there will be other charities, which operate in the same way. With Maggies and the Haven, they offer a cup of tea and a chat, counselling, self-help classes, aromatherapy, Indian head massage, reiki, reflexology, seated yoga, etc.
The alternative therapies are available for family as well as the patient, although naturally, the patient gets priority. You can drop in for a cuppa and a chat anytime. For all the other services, you need to make an appointment. You might also find it useful to have a chat with your sister’s specialist nurse. She will probably know what services are in the area and which are the best.
I do hope that you get the support you need and, remember, that we are always here for you too. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.
