Hi there ... it sure is a worrying time when waiting for tests and results.. sadly there’s no quick or easy way round it... I can only tell you how it effected me when they said the word cancer... I withdrew for 2 days to a spare room bed, curled up in a ball and all the “what ifs” going through my brain ... would I see Xmas ... how would my beautiful granddaughter be without me ... etc ... my partner tried to comfort me, but I pushed him away... wouldn’t let my son come see me ....didn’t want to see any one ... but on the third morning I felt so much better... like I faced all the grief, sorted my head ... and was ready to, even if I didn’t beat it, I would kick cancer down the road every step of the way ... I had amazing support and wise words from my daughter in law... to stop looking at what might be... and taking one problem at a time as it came up ... I felt so much stronger ... but still need “alone time” occasionally if things feel low .. but not for long ... just short bursts ...

my daughter in laws friend who had 2 small children when she found out, screamed for ages in the car home ... I think we all have different coping mechanisms... it’s just finding what works for her ... and don’t forget she may be o.k ... I had 4 call backs that was just fatty tissue... though the wait is still scary ... maybe just tell her whatever she feels or does, your right there waiting .... that’s the words that helped me ... so sending you caring thoughts ...Chrisie x

Got everything crossed for you both .... Chrisie xx