Hi petra, I wish you'd made that post earlier on in the thread, it would have saved me giving an apparently contrary response. Still, my perspective may be relevant to somebody else.

I'm now in complete agreement with your point of view and can understand your anger if the medicos are trying to force further info on your husband. It's clear he's carrying on despite his cancer. His way of coping with everything. And I think you're a fine advocate for him. I wish you both what you'd wish for youselves in the future.

Best Regards

Taff

Thank you Taff, sorry i caused confision! Likewise my very best wishes to you also

Hi Petra i'm so sorry you are going through this.  I had the opposite happen - my husband (who passed away in July this year) always wanted to know everything.  To cut a long story short he ended up in hospital in early June.  I was told he wouldn't survive the night, he did and lots more.  After 10 days of immobiliation and no real treatment in hospital they said he could come home.  I was told by the palliative care nurse that she had a talk with my husband ((without me being present) and told him his prognosis and also got him to agree to a DNACPR, (do not resussitate).  When he arrived home i had to put this form in the fridge and discuss his wishes with him, only to discover he knew nothing about the DNACPR and was quite upset about it .I was left in the predicament of realising he knew nothing of what was going to happen to him after all.  The anguish myself and my 17 year old daughter went through before he died was awful - we were not in a state to tell him, so didn't ( i don't know if we did the right thing not telling him)  You do know what your husbands wishes are so i hope you achieve this.