Hi,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum's current state of health and at such a young age too. I lost my Mum to secondary breast cancer which spread to her liver, lungs, bones and brain. It was so heartbreaking to see her fade away so quickly in her final year.

This must be very difficult for you. Believe it or not, your 2 children will probably adapt to her passing better than you. Children are very matter of fact and, provided you can tell them in an age-appropriate and matter-of-fact way, they will accept what you tell them. On the other hand, if they see that you are very upset, then they will be too. At only 28 am I right in assuming that you haven't had to deal with many death's in the family? Losing your Mum is probably the biggest loss that you will ever suffer in your life, but life goes on and you have to keep going for the sake of your husband, father and your two children. This won't happen overnight. Take things day-by-day and one day you will smile again.

Try not to dwell on the bigger picture at present, concentrate instead on being with her. Life is precious and, it often takes something like this to make us realize just how precious. Make the most of each and every moment you have left with her and don't forget to support your Dad too if you can.

I am sure that you will look back on the family holiday you had in April as a very special memory. This is the best thing to be doing now, if she is fit enough to do so. Try to stay strong and optimistic for her sake, even though your heart may be breaking into pieces.

Please keep in touch and let us know how she is. We are here for you whenever you need to talk.

Thinking of and praying for your family.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

There is not an awful lot that you can do at this stage. The main thing is to be there for her and to let her know how much you love her. Make her as comfortable as you can and make sure that her pain is under control.