Hi there ... so sorry to hear your news.... life is sure unfare but we are here to hold your hand on this journey we find our selfs on ... and to know your not on your own ... I lost my mum when I was 36 and she was my world and she adored my two boys , the youngest was 7 at the time ... he knew my mum had a poorly heart .. and I was always kind but honest with them ... he went everywhere with her and they were inseparable ... when she went I held him on my lap and told him "nanny didn't need her tablets any more, or her stick, and she would never be in pain again as she was in heaven and they would look after her, and when he saw a bright star in the sky , it was her saying hi to us" 

children are amazing as they can have a little cry and say they miss them and then do something normal and they do seem to cope better then us adults who want to cry all the time ... my mum went suddenly and never had chance to say good bye ... you have some time long or short to make every day count ... to hold her hand and tell each other all your heart wants to say .. together... your dad and son need you and you them ... I'm glad now we made the most of the time we had knowing how weak her heart was .. and both my boys still talk about her and how wonderful she was 27 years down the line ..

i am now on my cancer journey and I hope I've prepared them for whatever will come .. and we talk , hug lots and a few tears, and amazingly we find things along this journey to make us laugh too ..no one can take away memories, they live in our hearts forever... so sending you a big hug Chrisie xx

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, my mum had a tumour in her colon last year & it's has escalated from there. I'm with you, I have 2 young daughters who Addie their gran and I find it impossibly hard for them. But, we have our children & they are our strength ! You can do this because you are strong & your beautiful mum made you that way! Keep going , your doing great ! Xx 

Hi there... so so sorry to hear your news, this is the first time I've come onto one of these online support groups and your post touched me.... I wanted to reach out to say I know exactly how you feel and what you're going through...my mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer 5months ago.  It's too advanced for the tumour to be removed and it's spread to her liver also.  However, she has had a stoma bag fitted, which she's doing really well with, and she's had a few rounds of chemo so far to try to shrink it. 

I have two young children (6 and 2) and it's so hard... so so hard.... but having children I think almost helps you get on with things as you have to keep a sense of normality for their sakes.  These last few months have been a real rollercoaster but you'll find you will still smile and laugh, despite the tears and fears. I haven't really talked about it much as I try to put on a brave face for my parents but I find myself sat here with tears rolling down my cheeks as I type.... I started keeping a diary in the early days and find it helpful to write in it from time to time, I find it helps get my feelings out.  I also try and write down things I am grateful for as something as awful as this certainly makes you appreciate the little things.  The best bit of advice I was given was not to google too much.... and try to deal with each bit of information you get at a time and not think or look ahead too much.  Big hug

xxx