Hi Suzyjewel,

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry to hear about your partner's diagnosis. You haven't had time to come to terms with it yet and, I'm not sure that we ever really accept it. As if things weren't bad enough with your Mum, you are in for a hard time with your partner now too.

Have the doctors told you how long he has and, can they give him any treatment?

All you can do is to be there for him as much as possible. Talk to him openly about his cancer journey and try to allay any fears he has. Make sure that he is as comfortable as possible. Are there any people that he might like to see or things that he might like to do whilst he is able?

Do you have any family or friends who might be able to help you out, as this is a lot to take on on your own?

I lost my Mum to secondary breast cancer. She survived a primary diagnosis for 12 years, but was told that it had metastasised to her liver, lungs, bones and brain in her final year. It was harrowing and heartbreaking to see her decline so rapidly after that.

Instead of looking at the whole picture, which is just too  much to cope with, why don't you do what so many of us do? Take things day by day or even hour by hour if necessary. It is much easier to cope this way.

Please keep in touch. We are always here for you, whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx