Hey there, I’m 36 and my Dad is terminal. I’ve 2 sisters and 3 brothers. I’m the eldest and the youngest is 13. The impact on us has been huge. Dad was diagnosed 4 years ago. We were told after a year he was cancer free and I can’t describe the feeling. Sadly 3 months later it came back worse than before. He now has it in his liver, spine, lung, thigh bone and brain. When I first found out it was terminal I felt like you, it was a living nightmare that I couldn’t escape from.

I don’t have a relationship with my mother, my Dad has been my rock. He's always been the person I turn to and has always there for me as a best friend and a loving father. I’ve come to accept what’s happening. We can’t stop it, there's no point in trying to control something you have no control over.

Talk to your mum about her life. Ask her 100's of questions, find out everything you've ever wanted to know. It will help you to think about the live she has lived and comfort you to think of all the happy times she’s had in her life. The thing with cancer is that you start the grieving process before the person has passed. You’re mourning the loss of someone who isn’t gone yet. I think the positive thing is that you can take the time to say and do things with your mum, some people never get that chance. You will get through this. You’re stronger than you think!