My mom told me she has a breast cancer, what can I do?

My mum just broke the  news to me today she has breast cancer. I instantly went in a shock and bawled my eyes out. I had never ever expected to hear that news because she is a very fit and healthy lady who goes to gym 4/5 days a weeks and has a lot of energy.  Plus no history of cancer in our family. She mentioned that they have taken some biopsy of her breast for futher investigation. And they will be telling us the result by the end of this week, what stage of cancer she has. I feel abosulately scared,  petrified, depressed and worried finding out the results, (almost feels like my heart will go into small pieces after hearing the news). I know my mum is also very worried and has been feeling depressed, under a lot of  stress  coming to this term. She also mentioned to me she hasn't slept well for past few days. I feel like she has almost given her hopes up because of this illness and I want to be there for her and stay strong for her. She has been going to work even with all the stress she is under, to get her mind off this illness but i feel like its going to affect her health even more. What can i do to ressure her, and make her feel better?  and will things go worse for her? , can she still improve from this illness and her health?

any suggestions or any chats can be helpfull to me 

thankyou

  • Hello

    I just wanted to say i am thinking of you bith and am sorry to hear your mums diagnosis.

    She is obviously still waiting for results and it is difficult not to worry.

    I have recently had breast cancer and i tried to carry on as normal with work and keep busy to take my mind off it.I found the breast care nurses a great help with any advice i needed or if i needed some extra support.

    I found it helpful if i had somebody with me at my appointments to both give support and listen to the information being given to me.

    Your mum can get through this! Try to remain positive and strong.

    I wish you well and please let me know how mum gets on with her results.

    The nurses on this site are very helpful if you need any advice or questions answered.

    Xx

  • Hi there ... I've also gone through mastectomy 8weeks ago ... my strong /kind wonderful son was like you on hearing my news ... think he wanted to wrap me in cotton wool ... his amazing wife held us all to gether ... she sat him down and said ..." right , o.k we know what your mum has , we know what has to happen, and we'll cross every bridge as we come to it ... to gether " she held my hand as they took biopsy, she took time off work to be at appointments... my niece did the same ... my son was with me all through my op ... his was the first face I saw after ... that night I had to be rushed back to theatre at 3a.m he came back and walked by me and was there till 11 next day ... all the time my daughter in laws words saw us through ... we had a few tears along the way and lots of hugs and yet we found things to laugh about too ..

    i wish for you to have someone like my daughter in law in your life ... supporting your mum in whatever path she wants to take will help ... every one try's to be strong for every one else ... I just think us all admitting we were scared was a comfort... 

    its one of the hardest roads this takes us on... that's why lots of us say it's like a rollercoaster... good days / hard days and the long days we spend just waiting for results .... so hold her hand and open your hearts and although it takes some parts of our time up, don't let this cancer take away a day it doesn't have too ... big big hug ... Chrisie xx