Hi there ... this is one of the hardest things to come to terms with ... it's hard to explain but when I was first diagnosed, I needed to be alone for awhile as this 'rollercoaster ' that cancer makes us go on is overwhelming... what made me come out of wanting to be alone was a program on t.v about a children's cancer ward where they had drips and some had lost their hair and some were so young and some teenagers but they were smiling and so very brave ... I thought if they can handle this then so can I and it gave me an inner courage I never knew I had ... from that moment I was determined it wasn't going to take one day away no matter what it threw at me .. I just picture them

sometimes in our head is , because we feel so lost / scared etc we don't want to put that on the ones we love , not realising that we worry them more by holding everything in ... all I can say is just tell him you'll be ready if ever he wants to share this journey with you ... I found crying / hugging / and telling each other all the important things while you have each other ... and maybe telling him it's o.k to be scared ... hope this helps a little ... big hug ️ Chrisie x

Hi. Your message touched me deeply: you obviously love your dad. Right now it's beyond hard for you all. Try to find a way to be there for your dad even if it's a 2 second phone call , a hug a brief pop in . Try to let him know your there but also try to keep life normal. He will be struggling.  He is coping with diagnosis and his own concerns about you all. No matter what tell him you love him always, talk openly , try to tell him ordinary news and forgive any reactions/ behaviour you don't like. Do things you can to support. Talk when he is able about anything he wants whether  cancer or football and when he is able spend time with him. There will be times you will all need space. Treasure time and try to be positive X thoughts are very much with you

Thank you for your reply me and my sister are going to sit down and have a chat with him. But in the meantime i will just try and ignore any behaviours that i know he deoesnt mean whenI think he is trying to provoke an argument xx