My mother in law has been advised that her cancer is incurable and that we have Months rather than years left with her. She's declining at a rapid rate and she lives with us and it's hard to watch. Now my partner who's mum it is works as a support worker and has been in her job for 5 years. They know the cancer is terminal and that she's declining to the point I'm carrying her to bed as she can't make the stairs. Occasionally she calls in work if she feels her mum might need her at home only occasional maybe twice in a month plus she works in care with a lot of team members who work there too.

now the advice: Everytime she calls she gets hassle off the management saying isn't there anyone else who can sit with her (there isn't and I'm away working some evenings) also the same manager said at the time of treatment isn't there anyone else who can take her for her cancer treatment. Now I know bosses are bosses but they have plenty of staff and are informed with enough to warning hours maybe a day in advance depending on situation. He's also cancelled her xmas holiday which was for a week saying no one can take holiday in December even though (it didn't include xmas week) previous management said it was fine. This will be her last xmas if she even makes it that far just after some advice really as well I'm thinking these are exceptional circumstances and my partner doesn't need the added stress .....thanks leo