My mum is terminal she doesn't know

My mum is terminal she doesn't know . She is almost 84 and is in hospital with a totally different health issue but during checks they found a mass on her liver and ovary they have found indicators of the disease in her bloods and have said there is no treatment as she has health issues and the treatment would not be succesful. They are to discharge her with Palliative care package in place to her home. 

The problem i have is she has always had a deep fear of cancer and doesn't know she has it, she is aware of an issue with her liver but not that it is terminal cancer and the prognosis is not good with palliative usually is under 6mths. My head is a shed as i have only my brother who has a brain issue and now this .

Do i tell her or do i just go with the flow. I feel she should know but i know this would probably frighten her beyond belief and she lives in a small bungalow 'alone'  .:confused:

  • Hello.

    Sorry to hear your sad news.

    My mum has lung cancer and three brain tumours. Me and my aunt were told she has months left. My mum knows her prognosis isn't good but she doesn't want a time frame. She's 50. She now has weeks left to live.

    Everybody has respected mum's wishes to not know. It is hard to keep it from her some days when she says shes hopes she gets better at the same time she says see knows she isn't stupid and knows she doesn't have long left.

    If you feel comfortable ask your mum if she would like to know where her health stands. Or ask the hospital staff to speak to her? Some people like brutal honest truth and some dont.

    Hope that makes sense ,(sorry lack of sleep and rubbish iPad).

    Here if you need a chat.

    Zoe 

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