Hi, my partner ( now my husband as we got married 2 weeks ago) was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive bladder cancer in Dec 16. He had his bladder removed in Jan 17 and 6 weeks later we were told the cancer hadn't spread any further. We were over the moon until 2 weeks later he had back ache so we went back to the hospital and they said he had a urine infection, the pain was getting worse so they did a MRI and we were told the cancer had spread to his bones. This was devastating and not the news we wanted to hear. The hospital immediately referred him to the Royal Marsden where they gave him a huge dose of radiotherapy to his lower back and then he had 6 cycles of chemo. After the chemo they rescanned him and one of the tumours hadn't shrunk so they started him on immunotherapy Therapy. He was just about to have his 3rd immunotherapy when he was saying he had blurred vision so they scanned hm and noticed the cancer has spread to his skull. They have given him more radiotherapy and said there is nothing more they can do. They have sent him home to die. He is only 43. We don't know how long he has and I just don't know what else I can do. Like the rest of you I am strong around him but completely break down when I hang the washing up or go out to get a pint of milk. I just want some advice or a hug. Thank you for listening.
