So sorry to hear this, it can't be easy to be in this situation. Do you have friends and support to talk with?

Hi Shona,

I am so sorry to hear about your partner. My sincere condolences. It must be so difficult to lose a loved one within just 3 months from diagnosis. I must also have been extremely hard to have his family take over at the end and not to have been with him when he passed. He sounds as if he was a lovely man - he certainly had a special smile. Did you manage to go to his funeral or were you excluded from that too? What age are your 2 children and how have you all coped since his passing?  What a great pity that you never managed to get married. We never realize how precious time is until it is running out. 

I lost my own Mum to metastases from breast cancer. She fought it for 12 years and it was just in her final year that we discovered the secondaries in liver, lungs, bones and brain. She deteriorated very quickly at the end and it was horrendous to watch. I was diagnosed myself 7 years ago and then had a second bout of primary cancer the following year.

When you have had a partner for 9 years, you must find it extremely difficult and lonely to be on your own again. Unfortunately, no amount of counselling can help with this. Do you have any hobbies or pastimes that might take up some of your leisure time 0 not that I expect you'll have that much if you are looking after 2 children on your own.

I hope that you will find this site helpful, as it will give you somewhere to come and talk to others who have had the same sort of experience that you have had. You will find that just writing things down and chatting to like-minded people will help you in some way.

Please keep in touch. There is no need for you to feel lonely while this site is here. Remember, there is always someone here whenever you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx