My mum is Dying

Hi all. 

My mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer a few months ago and due to many factors they are unable to give her chemo or anything. She has been told she will not survive the year and care is now palative.

She is only 50 and the news has devastated her and all of us. It's just such a shock as she was always so healthy and lively and now this. She's in pain and discomfort and it's so hard to watch her like this. I feel completely powerless and so scared because I'm not ready to loose my mum and shes not ready to die! She was my rock and an amazing mum and grandmother,  she is being taken away too quickly and it all seems so unfair and very surreal. 

Every night im crying myself to sleep and when I wake up for a few moments I wonder if it is all just a bad dream but then the reality that my mum is dying hits me and it's too much. It's hard to describe how intense the feeling of hurt is. I'm truly heartbroken.  

Is anybody else going through this, or has been through it.?

Any shared feeling and/or experiences would be gratefully received 

 

Thankyou 

 

Claire

  • Hi, my dad had a cancer and hi got a chemo terapy but that not help hem. He had stroke after chemo and bad of all this he did not stand it and die few years ago. If u need any help may be I can do something to help u and yours famyli
  • Hi claire x my mum has lung cancer, she's 72, but prior to this she was fit and healthy, she's now in constant pain and we think it's gone to her liver, as she's still losing weight and in. Agony. She's my best friend, confidant, and I feel heart broken, I don't want to see her suffering anymore, but feel that there's nothing left to be done. They refuse to give her treatment as it will kill her. She lays in bed every day crying. I call her she crys. I'm just feeling hopeless. I have four young children so can't get over As much as I would like, my dad takes care of her best he can but it's hard he's so tired. I want my old mum back, I can't face losing her so I totally sympathise x

  • Hi so sorry 4 what u going through with u mum I know exactly what u going through the feeling are normal . My mother had bowel cancer 4 3 years she went 4 routine check up last year July and was told they found something turned out it was tumour they didn't know if it was on her ovary or bowel she had more tested and was told in October that there was nothing they could do. My mother didn't want 2 know how long she had. My mother passed a away 2/8/17 :( it was so hard watching someone so close 2 u and there nothing we can do just be there . It's so sad my heart broken take care x 

  • I wanted 2 say hi and so sorry 4 u mum it nightmare I totally felt like u when my mother was dying many times I have sat on the bed with her and just held her and we cried and I used 2 tell her how much I love her :( my mother passed away 2/8/17 I can't believe how quickly she deteriorated :( take care x 

  • Hi x im

    so sorry for you losing your mum I just don't want my mum to suffer x I hope you have lots of support around you, even though I do I do still feel alone x

  • It's heart breaking x prob harder on my dad! He's looking after her and he's 75 with angina c  just don't know how he will cope when something's happens. I have four children so have to keep going but wish I could do more x  thank you for sharing your story with me x

  • Thank you for sharing this with meandfor your kind words x

  • How are you now? Im so sorry to hear about your dad. She unfortunately passed away on the 27th of September 2017 and I have started to pick my life up again 

  • Thankyou for your reply. I have only just mustered up the strength to sign back on here. Im really sorry to hear anout your mum. How are you and your family doing now? Its been a hard journey but we have just about come through at the other end and came together as a family? 

  • Thankyou for the reply. Im so sorry to hear this. She passe daddy on 27th September 2017 and we have all come together as a family and been strong as we can be. Its made us all closer and i have started to pick my life up again. I still think snoot her alot and I still cry but im doing what she would have wanted. Xx