Hi all,

I just found out today that my uncle has cancer. So far we don't know much apart from it's a form of lymphoma. He's been sick for the last 4 months but the Gp kept saying it was a chest infection so it's very frustrating about the delay. He has a biopsy next week and we should find out more then, if it's treatable etc. But it's not looking good :(

Anyway the reason why I'm posting is that I'm really really close to my aunt and young cousins, I've been living away for the last few years and one reason I moved back was to be close to family. I talked to my aunt for a good hour today and she's understandably devastated but is trying to hold it all together for him and my cousins (their youngest is only 11).

i guess my question is what can I do? I asked if I she wanted me to come over tomorrow (or today now I guess) but she said not to and to call her on Sunday and see how they're doing. If she wanted I'd come over everyday- I just want to help as much as I can. I'm so sad for them all, and I just wondered if anyone had advice as to how best support them all without being too overwhelming? The last thing I wants is her to feel alone but I understand there's only so much I can do.

if anyone has any suggestions (especially if it's 'what not to do' tips) I'd really appreciate it.

sorry for the long post!

- Ally