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My dad has stage 4 lung cancer and I feel helpless

Annalise
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When I found out my dad had cancer I died inside.....my rock, my world ....was going to go. ..i feel helpless . He was very lucky to be selected for immune therapy trial. He doesn't want chemo. Bit I'm seeing a rapid decline and I don't know what to do or how to help. I feel helpless and lost. What do I do?? I'm going to loose my daddy and I have no one to talk to about it. ....im in pain xx

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    Hi Annalise,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My dad had cancer 15 years ago and luckily he survived. My young brother was diagnosed with a rare cancer last year in May( the reason I'm on this forum) He went through surgery, chemo and radiation but it didn't help. He is going to start immunotherapy (hopefully very soon) but its looking grimm. So we have a different story but I feel your pain. It's horrible not knowing what's next and to see your loved ones suffer. Just be there for him, make beautiful memories, laugh about silly things in life, enjoy every minute. I really hope the immunotherapy will help your father! Stay strong for him and take care of yourself. Don't lose hope! Big hug from me!

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    Hi Annalise, I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad, my Husband also recently got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, it has rocked our world, he's just turned 52. He's just completed 7 months of chemo and I think the next plan is immuno which can produce amazing results apparently. This cancer journey is a tough one that no one understands and I pray that most people never have to experience it. There are days when my hubby looks so frail and then others like nothing is wrong so please don't give up hope. Thinking of you and please keep in touch xx

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    Sorry to hear about your dad I'm going through the same thing now, there is just nothing anyone can do

    My dad started with pneumonia and I took him to a+e he went in icu and they found out then stage 4 small cell lung cancer  he was to I'll to have any treatment  they gave him 3 to 6 months

    It's heart breaking 

    The only thing you can do is be there and be strong for him try to make him as comfortable as possible. Cry when your on your own away from him seek comfort in friends and famliy the last thing your dad needs is to see how upset you are

    Tell him how much you love and hold his hand he'll be frightened reassure him 

    All my simpathy is with you right now I would like to say things will get better but it's going to be hard

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