I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I can completely relate to how you're feeling as my dad was diagnosed with cancer last year. One thing I want to say is that cancer isn't a death sentence in some ways. It depends on the type of cancer that he was diagnosed with and the stage of the cancer.
My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer last year and at that time he was given 3-5 years. So, although he is stage 4 he is able to still do normal activities. This doesn't take away from the fact that it is terrifying and I have cried many times throughout this year, and it is still devastating, as my dad is only 64. I just wanted to try to give you some hope, as I thought the worst when my dad was diagnosed last year.
Right now, you're probably in a state of shock, as I remember walking up every day and just crying in the morning and sometimes I would cry all day. It still happens somsetimes, but it does get easier to cope. It's still hard, but the feelings won't be as raw as time goes on. We just try to make the best of the time we have. Don't get me wrong, it still absolutely sucks, but we try not to dwell too much. I try not to think about the future too much, as that's when I normally get depressed about this situation.
Do you know kind of cancer and the stage yet? We were told about my dad's prostate cancer and then it took a couple weeks to find out the stage, as he had to go for a bone scan and a CT scan.
People on this site have been incredibly helpful, as you will probably find that others have gone through similar situations, or atleast they have advice on how to cope and it can make you feel less alone.
I know your feelings are probably overwhelming you right now. Just know that you aren't alone!
Hi there .. I'm 63 and 5weeks post op mastectomy... my son and grand daughter are my world .. we both take every day as it comes and he has held my hand all through my cancer journey.. he was like you at first but we cried /hugged and laughed together and because we can tell each other anything it has made me feel like he's holding me up and me him ... weather we have weeks or months or just maybe years we make the most of the times we spend to gether ...
my grand daughter is only 5 and we are the best buddies any one could hope for .. she makes me laugh all the time ... although in the back of my mind the thought of leaving her is the one thing that makes me teary .. l will give her the best memories a nan can give ...
l feel my mum watches over me an my family and l will do the same for them .. we don't leave our children we just wait on the other side x hope this helps a little .. sending you a big hug xx
