Hello Lmdaisy,

I just wanted to respond to you. I am so sorry to read about you mum. It sounds like she has been so brave. When my sister reached the realisation that her cancer was going to end her life, I was lost for words. Of course, I desperately wanted something positive to say. I told her that she was too good for this world and tried to encourage her not to be frightened. I think somewhere along the line after much sadness there came a resignation and quiet dignity. I hope your mum can find some peace. I also hope you and your sister find the strength to help your mum as best as you can. One day at a time. Very best regards xx

Thankyou so much for taking the time to reply...its a very lonely time at the moment. So sorry to hear about your sister. I hope you both found the strength to get through the hardest of times. Your words have reassured me a little but it's very daunting to think that there is a much harder hill still to climb. I am trying so hard to be positive and brave for my mum x

Just read your post. I have no great wisdom given that I'm only a week into my brother's diagnosis... but I'm sad too. Constantly, even when I act like I'm not. Even when I put on a brave face for him. So you're not alone. There's so many of us around the world. When I really need to cry but it's just pent up and won't come I watch Brave Heart! That does it! I'll say a prayer for you and your mum and sister. God bless.

rmleka

Hello rmleka.....So sorry for you and your brother and the rest of your family. Getting so consumed in what's happening  that Its easy to forget how many other people are in the same situation.  I'm going through a messy divorce and battling anorexia and the feeling of guilt is unbearable when i try to sort my own things and my own feelings. An overwhelming feeling of being selfish because I'm not thinking about my mum 24/7 sending my love and best wishes to you x

Lmdaisy, man! Divorce and cancer and anorexia! What a cocktail of horrible! So, I've been listening to a book on cd called "it's ok to laugh" by a woman who had a miscarriage and three weeks later her dad AND husband died of cancer, and she said something that made sense to me. She would imagine her husband's funeral and cry and cry...until one day she realized she was burying him before he was dead. She called it "trying on emotions for size" she told herself she'd never do that again. Then she got a tattoo on her wrist so she could always check what time it was...the tatoo said "now." That helped me. I quit picturing my brother dead...today has enough grief of its own. Maybe this helps you. Hope so! God bless. 

Rmleka

Hey just read your reply..it really helped thankyou. It's do true. We spend so long thinking about how to cope with what's in the future that we forget to live for now!! Also helped me to remember that sadly there is always somebody somewhere that has more to deal with than me. It's hard sometimes not to get coccooned in our own little world's. Love the tattoo idea too. Thankyou for taking the time to tell me about it..i will try my hardest to live for the now from today. Good luck to you and your future