Life has come to a halt!

Just to give you a bit of a backstory, mum mum was diagnosed with kidney cancer 14 months ago. she had her kidney removed and all seem ok. a couple of weeks ago she went back in for results of her checkup and they have told her they have found something on her lung. it is only very small and as they cant be sure what it is then they would like her to go back for another scan in 4 months time to see if this speck has changed. there is a very real chance it could be reacurring cancer. if it is then it is then she will have to live with it as there isnt much chance of it being 'cured'. even though we have three and a half months left until she has to go back i feel like my life has come crashing down. i fear that i will lose my mum. i cant eat and cant sleep, i breakdown in work. im living a nightmare. i'm also worried for my mum. i dont know how she is doing, i dont want her to be scared. i worry how she will cope if it is bad news. this is all very new to me and any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks, Chris

  • Hi Chris 

    I feel exacting the same as you. My mum has spots on her lung and it's having to see her going through, it's so hard. I have to keep it together all day bringing the kids to and from school. I feel like we're all holding our breath wondering what will happen now.

    It sounds like you're finding it really hard. What I try to do is not show too much worry around my mum. Make her breakfast or dinner, bring her out for walk by the sea, or cinema. Take her mind off it while waiting between hospital appointments.

    You need to look after yourself by exercising, eating well and getting enough sleep. Do you have kids, if so, try your best to focus on them. Be strong I know exactly how you feel.

     

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