Hi my mum has cancer of the spine which is incurable and has had biopsies taken from her liver me and my family have been through a really tough 2 weeks since finding out but would like help in understanding how people cope with this x
So sorry to hear about your mum , my mum also has a brain tumour grade 4 . We found out in January this year and has been a rollercoaster since ...... lots of hospital
Appointments and a few stays in hospital and it takes its toll and if I'm
Honest I don't think you cope with it I think for me
It has become a way of my life now . It's upsetting and scary but I feel like I have to hold
Myself together for my mum . Finding support groups are good for the family and there are also lots of closed Facebook groups you can join and talk to other people who are experiencing the same . I have found Mcmillan nurses / dept really helpful and my mums designated nurse will always take a call or a rant ...... everyone copes differently I know the prognosis and long time outcome but anything better is a bonus I just wanna live each day to the fullest and make sure my mum does all the things she wants too and be as positive as I can (behind closed doors is a different story).
Some days are better than others and your body goes through the emotions of anger / guilt / scared and then you find the strength to make a plan and try and cope as a normal
Day xxxxxx
I'm very sorry to hear about your mum's recent diagnosis.
My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver in April 2015. We learnt to adapt to the sudden change because this was our lives now as a family.Whatever he goes through we also go through together. I learnt that I shouldn't waste my time fearing about the future when he was doing OK. Normality helps a lot and trying to be positive too for them. So I treated my dad exactly the same just obviously a bit more helpful and considerate at times. But unfortunately 2 weeks ago we were told he's now terminal as it's travelled to the brain and he has a mass behind his left eye. I'm frightened as it's getting nearer to the bit we were dreading. Part of me wishes to go back to when he was first diagnosed so we could have those 2 years again as he's no longer himself where it's gone to the brain. Take each day as it comes. Think about the present don't waste your energy fearing the future.
