Hi,

i was hoping to reach out to somebody who has been through a similar experience. I've posted previously that my mum has terminal lung cancer but decided not to ask the doctor for a prognosis. She has been doing fairly well without much intervention but has started to deteruoate. Some days she has been really bad, struggling to breathe, walk , eat etc and other days she has been alright. We are definitely have more bad days than good. I work abroad frequently and have been trying to spend every hour I'm in the uk with her but also getting confused now about when I should work etc. Obviously I have to work and pay my bills but am terrified of her taking a turn for the worst and not being there or being hours away. I don't know when I should be taking a period of time off.. I suppose I'm struggling to know when we are nearing the end. I need to be with her and my dad is doing a good job of looking afternoon her at home butbeach time i see her it's obvious that she is thinner, weaker etc. Are there specific signs I should be looking out for. I know I'm being very vague and everyone is different but I don't know who to ask. WE have had very little contact or support from doctors and the palliative care team have cancelled appointments..  any advice?