Hi I'm Lynette we found out on Friday that my amazing mum has lung cancer.i have never felt so scared in all my life and don't really know how to deal with it. Xx
i took a lot from my mum as to how I dealt with the news. The first time she had it I was much younger and was a total emotional wreak lots of crying at home together and work until I got my head rounds it a bit more. I found going with her to her appointments really helped me as I could ask question she too which helped me understand.
This time when she got diagnosed with secondary bone cancer It again hit me hard as we thought it was gone but I'm definitely calmer about things. Talking to others has really helped me and I have a very good group of friends who I can talk too. Yes you need to be there for your mum but you need your support system too, I found a differences in me as soon a soon it was in place. Hope that helps a little
Hi Lynette ... my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer last June .... it is a very scary time and I've never felt so helpless as I did that day ...... take one day at a time and talk to each other as openly and honestly as you can it's what has got me and my mum this far without us both falling apart x
Thank you so much.Its so hard because no one wants to talk about it at all.My mum is being amazing but she hates talking about it.We go back the hospital on Friday to go through treatments which is worrying me so much
It's so fresh to you right now so there is so much going on around in your head and your mums. Obviously you don't have to but I would write down everything you think of this week that you want to know. the doctor should spend quite a while explaining the options to your mum and you but make sure you get your questions answered too. Or if you don't feel comfortable asking in front of your mum see if there is a time you could call and ask later.
A lot of the time no one knows quite what to say to you, you might need to start the conversation with your friends and family. Your mum might just need a while to come to terms with it, failing that there's always someone's on here to chat too! When my mum was diagnosed this time she was away when she's found out, so my dad told me. I couldn't pick the phone up and call her at all as I couldn't speak it out loud, so I emailed her everything instead.
