Hi Taz,

I am so sorry to hear about your mum and can fully appreciate your mixed emotions. Can I advise you that these are perfectly normal?

There are many people on this site who lose their parents before they have their families with the result that they never get to see their grandchildren and the children never get to know their grandparents at all. At least your daughter has had the opportunity to get to know her gran for 3 years and although she is still so young, she will remember her long after she has gone.

Do you have any oher family who can help to support you or are you an only child? This is always a difficult time as you have to be strong for everyone. It is so difficult to watch a loved one suffering and I feel for you.

I lost my mum in 1997 and still miss her every day. She had cancer for 12 years before she died. She started off with breast cancer , but ended up with secondaries in her liver, lungs and bones. It was horrible to see her in pain . She was never offered any palliative chemo.

Your mum is still young, which makes your situation even more tragic. Let yourself cry when you are away from your mother and daughter, as we all need a release valve.

I do hope that she is the 1% exception and shall pray for you all in the meanwhile.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Feeling sad to know about ur mom condition...this is metastatic cancer that is very randomly speard to another part of the body...ur mom took chemo?