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How do I look after a relative when I'm struggling myself?

dc64
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Hi, my sister has relied on me for a few years now. She's a lot older than me. I do try my best but lately I'm going through tests and worrying stuff. She forgets my appointments and stuff but I feel so guilty and angry when she just asks me for things. Sorry, angry and I don't know what else. Sometimes I can hardly talk to her without bubbling up with anger.

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    Hi dc64, I'm sorry to hear you've had a worrying time of it lately, healthwise. I noticed you mention you're helping your older sister out too, and wondered if you have heard of the charity Carers UK? They have lots of information and advice on getting support with care.  

    It's completely understandable that you feel frustrated from time to time, and I wondered if sharing your feelings on the Carers UK online discussion forum, as well as here, might help? 

    Please feel free to keep posting if it helps to share these feelings. We're here to listen. 

    Best wishes,

    Helen 

    Cancer Chat Moderator

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    Hi dc64, you can't beat a good old heart to heart.  Often these things happen because the other person doesn't see how their actions are affecting others.  It sounds obvious I know but I've done this many a time with my husband, I've even written to him before now to get my feelings across in a non confrontational way (he's very reactionary !) Hope you work things out x

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