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Totally in despair of what to expect

Clairebear64
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my sister has just been diagnosed with lung cancer with brain mets and today has also been told it is in her pelvis...she has asked that the doctor didn't tell her or us anything bad....I feel like I'm stuck as I know this is obviously terminal but surely there must be some sort of timescale I can work with without her knowledge??

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    Hi I'm new on here and totally feel for you. I don't have answers for you but I'm in a same position with my partner, can you speak to your sisters Doctor?! I asked my partners Doctor and he told me without his knowledge. X x
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    She has requested that nobody is told anything which is so frustrating, Sorry about your partner.xx
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    Hi sorry to hear this I too am in s similar situation with my mum it's coming up 2 3months now being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer she doesn't want any of us knowing any sort of time scale... she's breathing a lot better after having fluid removed but has started having pains in legs treatment wasn't really goin to make a difference so she's goin without I just wish I knew what was goin to happen & when X
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    Sorry to hear about this tragic news, I don't know what time scale but what is most important is that you spend the most time with your sister. My thoughts and prayers are with your sister and you at this time. I am wishing for the best possible outcome which is for the cancer to disappear. I can't imagine what your sister must be feeling. All the best xoxo.

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    Hi Claire,

    What a frustrating position to find yourself in. It is really hard to say as different people with different cancers can have such different experiences. Normally I'd say you should talk to your sister and her doctor to ask for a prognosis, but that option isn't open to you. 

    All you can really do is plan for the worst and hope for the best. Even when doctors do give an estimate of life expectancy, they get it wrong more often than not. 

    Best wishes

    Dave

     

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