We found out this week my healthy 66 year old mom has stage 4 kidney cancer. It had metastasized to her lungs, vagina, liver and near by places.  Her GFR is 28 and she has a blood clot behind her kidney. This was shocking news. They gave her 1-2 years to live. I am 37 and lost my dad 20 years ago to cancer ( waldenstroms) me and my mom are so close. I have a family of my own with 3 young children and husband who is super busy with work. All I can think about is my dad dying and the amount of work it was on my mom. I just assumed she would live forever after I lost my dad. Now it's myself and my sisters turn to care for her. To be honest I don't want to, I am freaking out over all this. I can only imagine how she feels. But I keep thinking I will have no parents left and I'm only 37. I think we have a long road ahead of us.