Hello,

Not really able to give any great advice but if you and your wife have a life insurance policy which has critical illness or terminal illness on it, you will be able to cash it in.  The Macmillan nurses also have a lot of knowledge with regard to financial matters. You must both be struggling to come to terms with this awful news and it is difficult to know where to get advice.  If you have a Maggies centre they have people that can advise on these matters.  My heart goes out to you and your family.

love lesliexx

Hi Roger,

Unfortunately, i cannot give you any advice, because I am in the same situation, working and caring for my husband, who stopped working a month after he was diagnosed with myeloma.

He tried to work, he even had some new job offers, but eventually, he realised that he was not able to do it.

I work in a retail and the money is not great. I now do as much overtime as possible to be able to pay all our bills. I struggle. I also have to help him to pay his Child Maintenance for his young daughter who lives with the mother that doesn't want to know about the fathers condition.

I am also in a very difficult situation and also need advice.

I just wanted to reply to you so that you know you are not alone...

My main worry is if my husband at some point stops walking and moving, what do I do then?

How are we going to cope?

I also have a 17 year old daughter with us and a 13 year old son who lives with his dad...

My husband developed anxiety because of all these finantial worries, which don't do him any good at all, on the top of what he already experience...

I wish you and your wife a speedy recovery, let it be successful with less side effects, so that everything will be good at the end.

This is hard for you but you have to be honest with everyone involved in your life.  Speak to your bosses, I was given compassionate leave,  this is paid and your Company may have this in place.  Speak to HR and lay your case on the line.  The Roy Castle foundation help many people, find it on line.  We are now receiving an allowance through the DWP this was sorted out by the Mc Millan nurse.   Children would rather know the truth than second guess the situation.   Our daughter's were more worried about the u known than the truth of the situation.  Speak to your GP see if a district nurse can come each day.  There are a lot of things you can do and a lot of help if you ask.  Stay strong and take it a day at a time. 

Hi,

  Again as others have said I can not offer any great words of wisdom. I do appreciate the situation you find yourself in as my husband was diagnosed with inoperable stage 4 lung cancer a few weeks ago. 

  We chose to tell our teenage children everything from the start, they would have noticed something was going on anyway what with Mum blubbering most of the time!  We now have a palliative care nurse from our local hospice who is available to support the whole family. She has referred me for counselling as she feels it will be of benefit and I'm prepared to give anything a go that might help.

 I too have to go to work as my husband is self employed and we need an income coming in to keep a roof over our heads. We have met a benefits advisor attached to the local hospice who has been a great help. Not only helping with what financial support is available but discussing pensions and mortgage details. I also know that the Macmillan offer a benefit/financial advice service. 

 Take care