Hello Lizzy boo

I'mI so sorry to hear about your mum. It must be shocking news and very hard to take in. Like your mum , I had breast cancer & treatment in 1014 and Nov 2016 I was diagnosed with bone mets.

You go through a " grieving " process- bit in denial / numb at 1st and then very upsit took me a while but I cried for a week and then sort of got it I out of my system . Since being given diagnosed I'm alot better- I was suffering from pain and exhaustion - now I'm on painkillers and much better! I can walk better and even run for the bus. I was told that bone secondaries is " the best " one to get , ie, you can live for years! I always think NO-ONE knows when they wake up what there day will bring - I hate to say it but people have car crashes etc.....i'? Not going to spend the rest of my time in fear . I'm lucky as I feel better on my bone strengthening treatment and hormone therapy. 

My brother says he's a bit in denial - but why thunk of the worst when I can be one of the lucky ones who lives years and years.

Be there for your mum and talk to herShe's probably putting a brave face on things and you can support each other. Hope your brothers are OK.  Ask for counselling at the hospital or GP - they will support you and help you cope.

I often feel it's harder for relatives and friends then me. I  don't how I'll be if things take a turn for the worse but at tbe moment I'm enjoying so easy to. Enjoy off work while I recover  ( just had a hip operation- will go back to work) . We then to a lovely Sale yesterday and got a new dress!

I would treasure your mum and help her / spend as much time. Enjoy as you can with her. I call me mum every day. We don't live near but it really helps. Get support.  But it is very hard.

I hope you do find some support and manage to enjoy Mother's day today.

Take care and best wishes 

Connie xx

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Connie,

I don't know how to thank you. It's great hearing it from a different prospective. I'm in this angry stage/ grieving stage so I haven't looked at it from your point of view. I'm so glad you are doing so great and I never knew bone mets was the "better" one to get. I will take your advice and talk with her. She's really worried about my brother that's in college because he's sensitive like me. I just want him to come home because I need my brother desperately. I know he will be the only one who understands how I feel and fear what I fear because she's his mom too.

I hope you continue to feel better and thank you for responding. I really needed to get it out. 

Liz  

Hi Ms Connie

My mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in the bone .She is in so much pain although taking oramorph and letrasole to shrink the tumours. She has had an injection in the bone and  radiotherapy but is still in horrific pain around her ribs. Nothing seems to work but otherwise as you say with the prognosis you can live a while with this type of cancer.

I love your positive outlook. I am a very positive person but struggling to find answers for my mum if her quality of life has diminished so much in a few short months. Have you had much bone pain?

nikkiart