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Trying to stay cheerful

Mazmaz
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My husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer in 2015. After chemo radiation therapy and 2 major operations his cancer has spread to his liver and lungs. He has a colostomy and urostomy.

We know that we still have many dark days ahead and staying cheerful is a daily challenge.  This year we should be celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary. Life without him seems unimaginable.

 

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    Sorry to hear what you are both going through. I had an oesophagectomy in June and the cancer has come back in my liver and kidney. Trying to stay cheerful and positive is hard. I am finding a lot of comfort in nature, even things like looking at the sky. I know it sounds odd, but I guess it's whatever gets you through. Xx

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    You're so right. My husband was able to sit in the garden for a little while last week and enjoy the sunshine. He even got my sister to plant some seed potatoes! We try to just take one day at a time, but it's not easy. Hope the sun shines for you today X
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    In a similar situation. A lot of crying but also a lot of talking and laughing. I'm glad that we are able to talk openly to each other. Trying to be as normal as possible between the "wobbles"!

     

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    We've were told 4 months ago that there was no more treatment and we did a lot of crying at the time and then some sorting out of my husbands affairs. Now the days all seem to role into one and can't help feeling as if I'm in a bubble which will eventually burst. We remind ourselves often of how lucky we are to have two wonderfully supportive daughters and a beautiful grandson, who brings us so much joy. At least his granddad got to meet him and make him laugh!

     

     

     

     

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