Hello! My nan was diagnosed I think I'm 2015 and was treated with Radiotherapy, the cancer is terminal but the treatment managed to make it dormant and so far it hasn't spread anymore than it had.
Sadly now after all the treatments and everything she has done she has slipped into a depression which is recognisable to everyone else but herself. She's very stubborn and it's really hard to help her when it's very obvious she has given up. She wouldn't let the doctors tell her or my family her estimated time left so we're all left in the dark of not knowing. She doesn't want a funeral and hasn't planned a Will. I live with my parents in Wales and my Nan, my Grandad and my uncle, who is disabled, live in Wallasey. So with us living so far away I don't often get to see them. A couple of weekends ago however I went for the night as I had been away in Manchester and I was heartbroken by the way the house was, my nans bedroom was just covered in crisp packets and rubbish and she smokes a stupid amount of cigarettes so her ashtray was overflowing. She spends most of her time in bed now and she used to go to the doctors every other week so get her dressing changed for her drain but she doesn't go to them anymore the nurse comes to her. My boyfriend and I are going to stay this weekend to start decorating as I thought that may start to help her feel better if her house starts to look nice. I've been wrecking my brain trying to think of ways to help her get out of this depression stage she is at because I can't let her live her last days in bed being miserable. Everyone kind of sees a bitter old lady who just doesn't want any help but I see my nan who is just frightened and lonely, I just want to help her so much but I really don't know what will get her out of her stubborn mindset. It breaks my heart to think it could be anytime soon she could go and that she spent the last part of her life the way she is now. Even if nothing helps I at least want to try. If anyone has any ideas then I would be so grateful!
Thank you, Katie
