dont know where to turn

My daughter who is 19 has recently been diagnosed with Neuroendocrine Tumours. This is a very rare form of cancer and is almost unheard of in anyone her age. We have been told that it has spread and therfore palliative care is the only option in regards to treatment. There is no previous evidence as to what to expect next or in the future and i feel lost. I have looked on other forums and not found anything useful. I have amazing friends and family who have been really supportive but we are still waiting on tests to see where it began either the bowel or pancreas as to what is the best form of treatment. we have been told to just take things one day/step at a time which i understand but i feel like i am in limbo unable to make any plans or anything. i have 2 other children aged 14 and 4 aswell so it is just so difficult trying to carry on while everything has been put on hold. I dont know  when or if things will ever go back to normal. As this is such an unsual thing even the hospital staff cant really advise us so i just feel so confused.

  • Always happy to help if I can Oddone, let us know how you get on with treatment etc. Best wishes. Xx
  • Hi Oddone,been a while since i last posted,i hope your daughter is doing well.Myself on other hand is not doing so good,my son passed away on 17/03/2017 and my heart is broken should never of happened as from time he was admitted into hospital to when he died was just over 6 weeks :( i cannot say a lot about the circumstances at the minute but an inquest and investigation is taking place.I really do hope everything is going good for you all.Take Care x 

  • Hi Doness, 

    I just saw your post and wanted to stop by to offer my condolences to you on the passing of your son.

    I also wanted to let you know that we and the cancer chat community are here for you if you need us.

    Kind Regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

  • Doness 

    I am so sorry to hear your tragic news you really do have my sympathy, I wish I could offer more than my words of sympathy and say something that would actually help, I am here if you want to chat or vent etc. My daughter started palliative chemo a few days ago and is due to have 6 treatments 3 wks apart and then see where we are. It all feels so overwhelming as she was "fine" just a matter of no the ago and now she is being pumped full of poison that may not even help, but what other option is there than to try :( I hope things get a little easier for you as time passes I know it's easy for me to say but I genuinely am sorry take care xx

  • Hi Oddone, Was pleased to see your post pop up, had wondered how your daughter was doing. Hoping she responds well to treatment and disease becomes stable. Do come back and let us know how you're all doing.
  • Hi Denise, 

    First treatment the other day seemed to as well as it could, unfortunately, since she has been experiencing extreme anxiety, she isn't eating or sleeping and is crying a lot obviously in the circumstances this is expected but it is at the point where shes making herself I'll with worry imagining she had a temperature for example when she doesn't so we are going to the Dr today and she is going to talk to the psychologist at the Maggie's centre at the hospital later in the week, thank you so much for keeping us in your thoughts hope you and yours are as well as can be xx

  • We're doing ' ok' thank you. Latest scans 'disease stable' I'm sure Maggies will give your daughter the help she needs, someone who isn't family who she can talk to, without fear of upsetting them. Best wishes.