Hello my friend

I'mI'm 49 and like your mum had breast cancer 2013 and now recently have been diagnosed with bone cancer in my hips , spine and a few robs. 

​​​​​I actually think it's really really hard for relatives.  I think it's harder for them then me! I'm a bit like your mum- just getting on with things and grateful that my pain is well controlled and I can carry on as normal most of the time.

You can perhaps call the Macmillan helpline and talk to someone on the phone or go to there centers in hospitals- if you Google your area. I in fact haven't even told my parents yet - they are elderly, but will do soon. Im going good to give them the link to their local Macmillan Centre so they can go and talk to someone if necessary. 

Maybe pluck up to your mum you're struggling - she may be putting green on a brave face for your sake and be happy to talk.  I find details that as long as I'm treated as normal I 'm more ten happy to talk about my cancer.

I did ask my Consultant about my pr- take comfort in that people can live for many years with bone mets.

Your GP may also help & refer you for counselling and to check that you're not depressed.

So sorry that you're going through this. Your mum is lucky to have you. I always think that no one knows how long we have- could get knocked over by a bus and not to waste the time I have with angst and worry - bit it's very natural. You've identified that a little more information would help you and so hopefully the Macmillan people can give you thus. 

Take care and let us know how you get on

Best wishes

Connis

I have gone through a very similar experience, i struggled to let my mum know how i felt! You are so strong and your mum sounds like an incredible person. Just remember to look after yourself aswell, make sure you talk about this with someone and let them know how you feel! For your mum to stay positive throughout all this is absolutely inspiring, sometimes putting in a brave face may make things worse! Just remember that what you are going through is extremely difficult and no one expects you to not be upset by this.

hello 

my mum had exsacley the same she managed 4/5 years with it she did amazingly well I was mums full time carer but sadly it went into all of her bones and we last her in November I could never talk to my family/friends I found it very helpful on her but never found someone with the secondary bone cancer if you ever need a chat to someone who has been throw it with a mum im always here x

Hello 

l recently lost my dearest mother from gallbladder cancer which was diagnosed last year oct in its last stages mum recided to go with chemo and radiation just to maybe have abit more time with us.After her first treatment she was going down hill and had to be taken to hospital.She seemed to be on the mend but suddenly had a blood hemridge.She lasted three days after that it was so painful to see my mother dying.she passed away new years eve but died peacefully.lm still in the process of mourning my mother and my mother inlaw now has been diagnosed with bone cancer which is from the breast cancer she had four years ago.its spread to her legs,lungs,kidneys,bowel,spine.She is 74 years of age and lm her carer as l have been for many years.l take each day as it comes but it doesnt seem to get easier l miss my mother very much and lm loosing another.