Secondary bone cancer - need information

Hi

im hoping that maybe someone who is in a similar situation or knows someone who is could help me with some information/experiences.

my Mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in her spine in January. She's being treated with chemotherapy and bone infusions. I understand that this can't be cured but 'managed' with treatment. I'm finding it difficult to remain positive as she seems to have gone down hill very quickly. She's only had two rounds out of 12 chemo and when she went in for the 2nd they were shocked that she could barely walk. They then discovered it's in her hip and gave her radiotherapy on her hip. She's now on morphine for the pain. I was hoping to see improvements when she started treatment, but I think she's a lot worse.

basically I'm just wondering will at some point the treatment look like it's working and will she be able to walk better with less pain? Or will it just get progressively worse? I just don't see and positives at the moment in if the treatment is actually working.

thanks for listening 

  • Hello, It sounds like your mum is being well looked after and receiving some very intensive treatment, which will be hard, not just on your mum, but will hopefully get easier over time. I had cancer in my hip and femur. It was well advanced and meant that I needed a very intensive chemo, 14 rounds, and a full hip and femur replacement. The first one wiped me out and it was all a blur until after number 4 when I was scanned etc to see how the chemo was helping and if the course should be continued. This was back in 1997, so it really was quite some time ago but the treatment did get easier. Your mum will be reviewed when the treatments had time to work. What your mum needs now is for you to be really positive because she's working so hard to turn up for treatment that she knows will make her feel awful. Try to think of small things that will cheer those days up. Breakfast somewhere nice on the way to hospital visits, or if she has a hobby, something to do when she's sitting around? Audio books if she likes reading, this means when she's too tired, she can still enjoy her favourite stories. Try to enjoy things together, like a funny film.. even an old favourite. Laughing together will be good for both of you. Don't hide your feelings, share them with your mum but find ways to make yourself feel positive and share that feeling with your mum so she's encouraged. The treatment plan sounds really promising, so smile for the chance that's there and be reassured that you'll soon have some much needed answers. Xxx
  • Thankyou so much for your reply. It has made me feel a lot more positive and some really good advise. When I get in a down sort of mood I find it very difficult to pull myself out of it, but your message has definitely helped.