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Feeling Beaten.

Balibee
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My husband back to waiting for appointments, my oldest friends husband, diagnosed nearly a year ago and very poorly right now, and another dear, dear friend who today lost a 4 year fight with MND. It's the kind of day when I just feel like it's all already lost. 

Sorry. Just needed to say that. I just want it all to stop. Give us some good news for a change. 

 

  • Hello Balibee, 

    I'm sorry to hear your husband is back to waiting for appointments and that your husband's friend is very poorly right now. Please also accept our condolences on the passing of your close friend who recently lost their fight with MND. I know nothing I can say can help with the grief you may be experiencing right now but I just want you to know that our thoughts are with you and let you know that we are always here if you want to talk.

    I think you have echoed the thoughts of many members on the forum and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support to you at this difficult time. This may be the last thing you want to hear at the moment but do try and stay positive if you can and enjoy the little victories that come your way. It might not seem like it right now but the grey clouds will part and the sun will shine strongly once more.

    Kind Regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Steph
    Hi Steph, thank you for your response. I am usually more of a half full rather than half empty person, but struggling still. We had the funeral yesterday, and the day before that my other friend's husband was transferred into a hospice. The same day we got notice of my husbands biopsy and scan. March 7. When that comes, it will be 81 days since he was diagnosed. I am disgusted and horrified by that and no idea how to or where to complain. And if we do would he just get pushed further down? After that there will be the wait until a new consultation date and then another until he ever gets treatment. The man has stage 4 kidney cancer and not yet a breath of treatment. Hard to find a half full glass.

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