Small cell lung cancer

My beautiful mum has just been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, our world has literally been turned upside down,my mum is in her early sixties, fit and healthy in every other way,doesn't smoke or drink and has been happily married to my dad for almost 50 years,I am the oldest of 2 daughters, My mum has virtually no symptoms other than a croaky voice,she felt slightly unwell before Christmas but assumed it was a chest infection, after visiting her doctor, having a chest x-ray, followed by a ct scan and an appointment with a specialist we were told she is dying and has incurable lung cancer.Our hearts are broken,I find it unbelievable how life can change so quickly in a matter of days,my poor mum is trying to be so brave,whilst the rest of us are falling apart,I don't no how we are ever going to recover from this devastating news,I am terrified at the thought of my beautiful  mum not been here, I cannot imagineliving the rest of my life without her,my dad is broken hearted beyond words,my sister who recently lost her son is the only one unbelievably holding it together,for the rest of us in think, I do not no what to do,i no there must be many other families out there going through the same thing as us, but yet we feel so alone.We are waiting for a phone call tomorrow to see if mum can have chemotherapy to hopefully give her a little more time with us,but still the outcome will be the same.we feel so scared at what the future is going to hold for us as a family, how do we ever recover and move on from this.

  • Hi Wendy, 

    I'm so sorry to hear your mum has been diagnosed with incurable lung cancer. The thoughts and feelings you have described will resonate strongly with many members here who have been in the same situation with their parents and hopefully they will be along soon to offer their advice and share their experiences with you. It's understandable to think about what life may be like without your mum but if you can try not to think too far in to the future but instead concentrate on the time you have left together and make as many special memories as you can of you all together as a family unit. 

    I see you mentioned that you were waiting for a phone call yesterday to find out if chemotherapy would be an option for your mum. I hope you received the best news possible in this situation and that you are able to have more time with your mum.

    Do come back and let us know what they said if you can.

    Kind Regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thankyou so much much for your concern,We as a family are completely and utterly shattered finding out my beautiful mum is dying,we are spending as much time with her  as we possibly can,and take only one photograph each day of mum with either me ,my sister or dad or my son so we have a memory album of her for when she is not here,are hearts are totally broken.we honestly feel we are sitting here on a time bomb.we received the phone call from mums coordinator who said theyou need another biopsy as the first one was not sufficient so we now find our selves back on a waiting list for an appointment for this to be done,we are so frustrated having to wait,whilst precious time passes us by,The doctors need to be sure which type of cancer it is before deciding the best treatment for mum.The word Adenocarcinoma,has been mentioned which they seem to think mum may be able to have a pill opposed to chemotherapy, we just do not no,my mum has gone down hill in the space of 3 weeks,noticeably and gets very tired easily and can Bearley speak now,she is so brave when I no she is so terrified it's heartbreaking to watch and sit by and do nothing,I do not no how we will ever recover from this ,kind regards,wendy x