Thank you for your reply. Since then there have been so many up and downs. He got his results and it was cancer but they were able to treat it with a laser where a chemical is injected and then the laser activates where the cancer cells are (forgotten the name). Then they found lumps and he was convinced that was it but the results were ok. However the next lump found needed to be removed. He told he has something else that is causing lumps in his body. We seemed close as he wanted to show me where they are and what was going on but now they found cancer in his stomach and he says he will chemotherapy. I don't understand why his body was not scanned when the first cancer cells were found. Also he had to go private for the ct scan as he didn't feel he could wait 2 months to find out whether he had cancer in his stomach and he was throwing up blood. It seems like a continuous waiting game that he has to go through which is emotionally wearing him down. I'm trying to be there for him but I think he is torn on whether he should let me or is able to have me in his life. We have given up the house we were living in as he wanted to be on his own. I thought I should follow what he wants but he is renting a room at a friend's and ii'm worried about when he gets sick. I have told him I will be there for him but I seem to only say the wrong things. I know I don't know what it is like to go through something like this but other than I understand I don't know what to say to give courage. He says I can't deal with empathy and he said he had to tell work but preferred those who responded you'll be fine get on with it but when I say that he thinks I don't understand how serious it is. I don't know how to be and it's making me very anxious. I hope someone can help me help him