Hello

my mother is very frail, lost heaps of weight now 5 stone. She had MRI scan, seen urologist who advised that there is a tumour on her kidney. Mum said she did not want any treatment or operation. The consultant was kind and considerate and suggested he see her again in 6 months. He was not sure if the tumour is cancerous but advised that an operation would be too dangerous.  

Just don't know what I can do to help her. She is very lonely and lives close by so I see her almost every day. I would mive in for a while but she is heavy smoker.... I feel guilty about not wanting to stay over but just cannot stand the smoke! 

Also feel she has given up and doesn't want to do anything, she is very tired and sleeps a lot and has very little appetite. I am trying to keep things normal but she is getting very low and anxious. She doesn't want to talk about her illness and is says there is nothing wrong. 

I dont know what what to do, any ideas?