Coping with a partners's rejection after a terminal cancer

Hello - I'm 62 - disabled - married to a Serbian- up and down relationship - without any symptoms he's been diagnosed Stage 4 cancer of the stomach gone through stomach wall and now there are 3 tumours in his liver and one on his bladder - it's in surrounding liver tissues - he was given 2 months to live without chemo and a few months more with - he is struggling with the chemo - I've brought his elderly sister over to speak in his mother tongue and cook his favourite foods - he stopped communicating with me weeks ago and is so difficult with me - I feel so rejected not least of all as he took himself off prior to diagnosis into the smallest room in the house - I've taken a month off work to take him to Drs Hospitals - sorted McMillan and Palliative care from our nearest hospice - also got the District Nurses coming for a chat this week but all I get from him is that I'm not supportive - he just wants to be left alone - yet spends hours with his sister or on Skype to friends - why have I been alienated - anybody else going through the sane thing?

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Robertfin26 although I'm sorry to read about the impact your husband's diagnosis is having on your relationship.

    It can be very upsetting when the one you love pushes you away when you are doing all you can to help and support them through a difficult situation but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. There are a few members here going through similar situations with their other halves and hopefully they will reply soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you. In the meantime I have found a discussion on the forum which I thought you may like to have a look at. Just click here to find out more and feel free to chat to other members there as I'm sure they would love to hear from you and help you as much as they can.

    Best wishes, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator