My boyfriend and I have been together one year. although it may not be that long we've actualy been through a lot together and are (were) very close. He is italian so there is a long distance battle too but we would always talk and had plans to move in together before the Cancer bomb hit us. 

In November he got told he had prostate cancer. He is 28 years old so that was the first massive blow. He was told he could live with it, take medicaion and have regular check ups. Then at christmas he was told he had advanced thyroid cancer. He is due for surgery in two days but doctors have told him its going to significantly shorten his life. He could have 3 months he could have 3 years. But they will be be treating him as long as possible.

He doesn't want to put me through it and said to 'forget about him' I struggle massivley to firstly undersand the complete diagnosis as it was all told to him in italan then I get it second hand in a different language. Asking questions makes him get angry and frustrated. He is barely talking to me now. He hasn't told anyone apart from me. His mum is concerned about him often texts me and asks me questions. I have no idea the best way to handle any of this. I want to be there for him and I still want to be his girlfriend.  I don't even know if hes just told me the worst case cenario or it is actually terminal. The unanswered questions and being shut out is tearing me apart.

I don't want to bombard him with calls and text nor do I want to make it about me but I don't know what to do and I hate to think of him alone.