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I just spent the evening with my lovelly friend Pippa and her husband and 13 year old son... Pippa is having treatment for a benign brain tumour surgically removed in Jan this year , followed closely by chemo etc etc 

for those that have seen my posts I had my kidney surgically removed due to a tumour in May follow up pet scan and 2 ct scans all looked good... 

For those of us that live on our own it's hard, I've had it hard this year as I have a close friend now going into palliative care.. Sister in law hysterectomy waiting for biopsy results , brother 4 toes removed due to diabetes and  3more close friends with other quite serious health issues.

being able to talk is something I need we all need it , it helps so much ... Lifts the spirits up .. Especially on the days that you think you will never be able to laugh or smile again. 

My friend with serious diabetic problems was talking to my terminal Ill Terry's wife.. She wants to have his ashes with her in the house so she can talk to him .  He said to Wendy that it's my wish to be literally dumped out at sea... Wendy said you can't do that just throw him overboard he might wash up on some beach .. Martin burst into laughter.  Ummm no Wendy his ashes  .  They both saw the funny side and so did I ..... When he told me... I also saw the funny side of it and laughed .. Oh I how I enjoyed that laugh.

I think that's the first time for months that Wendy has laughed ... Coping and caring for a terminal Ill husband or relation is heart breaking but at some stage in all of our lives we face it . And with a brave heart and the help of our God  of which ever religion we are ... We will obtain the strength to be strong .

my mum had a hysterectomy and both breasts removed   In her 70s .....when I was 12 she had pneumonia I started praying every night that she would live to be 90 ..... Every night without fail... She passed away at 90 and 8 days ... My prayers had been answered .  I don't go to church but I have faith in God 

i hope that all of you wonderful people on here will continue to be strong as we all need to support each other ... Especially those caring for loved ones, those of us on their own and coping with this terrible cancer of all types.

thank you for reading my post.   Be strong  .... God bless you all.  Alan 

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    Good morning Alan,

    This is the first time I have responded to you but I have read most of your posts.

    What you said about talking, reminds me of BT'S advertising slogan that run for a long time years ago, "Its Good to Talk". Never is it more true than when cancer rears its ugly head. I joined this forum over four and a half years ago when I found it quite by accident. Since then I have been amazed time and time again what a differnce a few kind words can make to help lift someones spirits. We are often surrounded by friends and family but often find it so hard to talk open and honestly about our fears and feelings. But on this great site, we can talk to completes strangers we will probably never meet, and yet because we have this bond of cancer, we can open our hearts in a way we find hard with our loved ones.

    I have lost ten family members to cancer plus having had prostate cancer myself which Is why I found myself joining this forum. I look at it this way; we can all use our experince of cancer, be it good or bad to try and help others for by doing so we are also helping ourselves.

    I wish you, your family and friends all the very best, Brian.

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    Good morning Alan,

    This is the first time I have responded to you but I have read most of your posts.

    What you said about talking, reminds me of BT'S advertising slogan that run for a long time years ago, "Its Good to Talk". Never is it more true than when cancer rears its ugly head. I joined this forum over four and a half years ago when I found it quite by accident. Since then I have been amazed time and time again what a differnce a few kind words can make to help lift someones spirits. We are often surrounded by friends and family but often find it so hard to talk open and honestly about our fears and feelings. But on this great site, we can talk to completes strangers we will probably never meet, and yet because we have this bond of cancer, we can open our hearts in a way we find hard with our loved ones.

    I have lost ten family members to cancer plus having had prostate cancer myself which Is why I found myself joining this forum. I look at it this way; we can all use our experince of cancer, be it good or bad to try and help others for by doing so we are also helping ourselves.

    I wish you, your family and friends all the very best, Brian.

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    Hi Brian very nice to meet you.. Yes it's so true being able to meet people on here and chat especially on those ever so often low days is a great help

    loosing so many of your family must be devastating . I'm finding it hard facing loosing  my best friend ... I want to message his wife everyday but 3 days ago I just said those her you've a lot to do.. Message me when you. Can... But I'm just getting bits and pieces from Terry's mum   She's 80 and it's hard for her  

    I'm happy we met and I would like that we continue to chat  very best alan

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